WHEN IS TOO SOON TO ALLOW A WOMAN TO PAY FOR A DATE????

Dear Diary,

I met Alana at an Election Night Watch Party and we seemed to hit it off pretty quickly. She was cute and funny and seemed intelligent. We exchanged numbers and quickly arranged a date the following weekend.  That Saturday we met at Clyde’s downtown DC and had a really good time. She was pleasant and the conversation flowed.  After our great evening, we arranged for a second date. She wanted to see a movie at the IMAX Theater in Columbia, MD which I agreed to. When we arrived at the theater we both realized that we had the wrong movie time and were two hours early. I purchased the tickets and told her we could find something else to do while we waited for the movie. She said since I was nice enough to buy the tickets she would treat me to dinner before the movie. I said okay and we grabbed a bite to eat. After we ate we went inside the theater. While in the theater, she grabbed my hand to hold it and started to kind of rub my arm. I was thinking, Okay I guess she feelin me and went along with it. When we left the theater she offered to drive me to her car and I thanked her and hopped in with her. When she pulled up to my car I leaned in to give her a kiss good-night since she was feeling me in the movie and we had chemistry. All we did was kiss, and I got out of the car and said good-bye.

The following day was Thanksgiving and Alana was leaving town but she said she would keep in touch over the break which she did. Upon her return, I sent her a text asking when she would be available to hang again and she did not respond. I thought that was weird since she responded any other time and sent her a few more texts with no response until finally she wrote back, “I am not interested in seeing you anymore.” Confused I responded, “Huh what are you talking about? “to which she replied, “ You allowed me to pay for dinner on our second date which was rude in my opinion and then you kissed me in the car after,” .  After a few more back and forth texts I concluded that this chick was crazy and deleted her out of my phone.

 

Question: Was I wrong for allowing her to pay for our meal SINCE SHE OFFERED on our second date????? Also, when is too soon to kiss someone?

CHIVALRY ISN'T DEAD.. IT JUST WENT TO THE SAME PLACE BEING LADYLIKE WENT!

Recently I’ve been seeing the phrase , “ Chivalry isn’t dead- it just went to the same place being ladylike went”. After I saw this statement  the first time I said, Hmm yea yea that sounds right – where are all of the"Ladies"? Do women even know how to be "Ladies" anymore or know how a lady is "supposed" to act? Seems like society has been glorifying the “ratchet” and the “fake” for so long, some of us woudn’t know a lady if she smacked us in the face! However, after pondering the quote some more I thought, “ Why does a woman have to “act” a certain way for a man to just treat her with the basic respect any human being deserves?” What happened to a man just honoring her “womanhood” without knowing anything about her at all? What happened to the men who just were taught to have manners and be chivalrous in the company of all women no matter what she looked like or acted like. It seems as though society is doing a pretty good job of emasculating men.

Emasculating in the sense of a man’s actions are contingent on what a woman is doing or not doing. Why don’t you just do what is right regardless? Even if a woman has not discovered her self- worth and is engaging in less than lady like behavior, is it really necessary to further debase her just because she “allows” it?  That logic is like saying it’s okay to abuse animals or children because they allow us to. NO, it’s not okay. At some point men need to get a moral code and just stick to it no matter what – the same way they stick to the G code, the Guy Code and whatever else. Women are deserving of respect, not because they act or look a certain way, but because we are the Givers of Life , therefore, take our GIFT seriously and treat us as such.

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