SHOULD I HAVE GIVEN HIM A RIDE OR NAH??

Dear Diary,

 I am a single woman dating in the DC area. I started using the Tinder app to meet different men and see what is out there. While I haven't had any bad experiences, things haven't all been roses and gum drops either. For those that care, I equate Tinder to being like a huge bar. Instead of having every random dude walking up to me trying to talk, I get to choose who I would talk to by swyping right or left. If I swype to the right, we can start talking to the left, I don't see you anymore. That's it. Tinder is nothing more, nothing less.

Recently I came across this guy who was cute. Middle eastern/Spanish looking guy and I decided to swipe right letting him know I was interested. We have been Tindering (sending messaging through the app) for awhile when he said he wanted some photos. We exchanged phone numbers and even additional photos. We were vibing and trying to meet up for our first date. Below is the transcript of us finally nailing down plans to meet up. 

HIM: I thought you wanted to hangout

ME: I did, just got a new phone so I am finally getting messages. You want to do something tonight?

HIM: Sure, what do you wanna do?

ME: I'm open, Want to just meet at a cool spot, grab a drink, appetizer or something?

HIM: Do you wanna go to a hookah bar?

ME: I'm ok either way, there is a place on U street Chi Cha Lounge or something or another, food is okay, there is also a place in Adam's Morgan too, but I have never eaten there, so you decide which one. BTW, do you smoke other things?

HIM: Okay, gotcha, only issue is my car is in the shop, so I can catch the metro to DC

ME: I can metro too, its easy for me as well. So then the one on U street is on 17th. It's Chi Cha Lounge

HIM: Got it!

ME: I am working late since I am doing a compressed work week, is 9 too late?

HIM: I think it should be fine, but I will let you know for sure soon.

PAUSE: To not make this post  go on forever, I am paraphrasing the next few texts. He reveals that he smokes green, which is totally cool with me since I smoke as well. We decide that we will also smoke some green tonight and that he will pick some up and bring it with him. He asks if he can come to my home or asks if I want to come over to his place. I tell him flat out, he will not be coming over to my house and I will not be going to his house. I let him know that we just met and I do not feel that we should be going to each other houses. So after that we continue talking about where we will meet.

HIM: Do you mind picking me up in Arlington? Its on the way to DC

ME: I am in Baltimore, lol.

HIM: Oh wow. I thought you lived near DC. Well if you don't mind picking me up I'll get two grams and smoke you out.

ME: I live near DC but work in Baltimore and I am at work now.

HIM; Oh okay. Well since you live near DC, you mind picking me up in Arlington? Since I don't have a car now?

ME: No, I am actually not comfortable with that. and I hate to sound like a bitch, but no. We can meet in DC tonight at a time that is easy for you but I can't come and pick you up.

HIM: I means its gonna help me out a bit, cause to go to DC will take about 30ish minutes through metro. You will just be helping me out a lot. I mean were gonna smoke anyway. Whats the difference in meeting in DC or Arlington, there like a couple minutes drive. I am saying it would be really nice and cool of you to do this favor for me. And in return I'll buy the weed.. I'll even pay for your gas if you want.

ME: I don't need a man to pay for weed or for my gas. I'm self sufficient for the most part. Plus I don't ever want to give off the impression that if you give me money I will do stuff. I can't be bought. At the end of the day I think you are asking for a lot on the first date. I understand the car situation, why don't we wait until you either get your car or we can both meet in a more central location

He then proceeds to continue to beg me for a ride blah blah and I am really THROUGH at this point!

WTF? Are you serious, I am thinking. Dude, didn't I just say I was in f****ing BALTIMORE, I work past the freaking airport. So you want me to drive all the way home, through the city and into Arlington to pick you up because its easy for you. WTF, because you can't take 30 minutes on public transportation to get into the city. So its okay to ask me to come over an hours, but you can't be inconvenienced or do anything? What a joke. This is your first impression and our first date and you have all these favors you want to ask. So, ladies, am I being crazy, too harsh, should I have given this dude a pass and picked him?  I can't believe he even had the nerve!!!!!!

NEW YEAR'S SURPRISE!

 

Dear Diary,

 

The classic movie "Four weddings and a funeral" teaches us that you will never know when and where you will find love it sometimes comes at the most unexpected time and places.

On this particular Friday morning the last person I was thinking about seeing was Mr. Good Guy. See, that morning I was preparing to say good-bye to my Father at his Homegoing Service and as I got my tissues ready, I got a text that said "Thinking about you." It was just what I needed and wanted. After the funeral and after spending time with family and a friends, a nap should have been in order, but something kept me up I kept looking at that text that read: "Thinking About U."

After a few hours and reflecting- I called Mr. Good Guy and said, "Can I see you?" Backstory, I had met Mr. Good Guy the week before at a New Year's Eve Hotel party with my girl. Ironically, I was about to head back up to our room when he tapped me on the shoulder and introduced himself.

He quickly said, "Yes, what time and where?" It was like he came to my rescue. I was tired of mourning, tired of crying ,and I wanted someone to comfort with me some laughs and hugs and maybe a kiss on the cheek.He picked me up told me how strong I have been this whole time. I asked him hat he wanted to do. He replied anything you want to. I knew that I needed something to sip on and my favorite drink is Jameson and Ginger Ale. It's the best with a Cigar. So we went to my favorite cigar shop and I had the managers give him a private tour. The shop was closed but my friends opened it up for us at the last minute. They helped Mr. Good Guy pick out a cigar that he would enjoy. I was purchasing my regular collection Cherry Flavor Petites.

The manager suggested we go next door to the jazz lounge to smoke there. We headed there with no problem and pulled some seats up to the bar. We talked and talked, he reached over to kiss me. We ordered the best soul food ever. I lit his cigar for him and he lit up my heart with this..." I just want to say thank you for allowing me to meet you on NYE. I had the best time and I hope there will be many more."

After a few puffs of the cigar and some drinks the bill came. I knew this place was not going to be cheap based off the food and drink prices. My old ways of 2013 crept in and I pulled out my wallet to contribute. When I tried to give some money towards the bill, he pushed my hand away at least 5 times. I was thinking... What this guy going to pay this expensive bill? I was the one who wanted to see him. It was the best thing ever.

We walked downstairs to the DJ area and shared one last drink and a kiss and a big hug.We head back to my place and we talked some more in the car. He walked me to the door of my building, then the door of my apt, then the door of my bedroom.

In the middle of the night I found myself in the bathroom throwing up from the  drinks  and crying. Why crying? I was missing my Father but guess who comes rushing to the door to check on me and get me some juice? Mr. Good Guy.Since then Mr. Good Guy and I have been hanging out just about every other day and things are going great. I went from preparing for a funeral to say goodbye to my Father to saying HELLO to someone that I could see staying in my life forever.

SUMMERTIME FINE!!

Dear Diary,

I met this guy online who was STUNNING. I'm talking 6'4, muscular build, played soccer, the perfect specimen. After chatting online for a bit, we met for our first date and as soon as he opened his mouth I could tell he was a super NERD. Which was actually even more of a turn on, since his body was  crafted by the GODS!!  After our first date I learned he was really into power animals and zodiacs. I had never heard of "power animals" before but he wasted no time enlightening me. He even emailed me a detailed moon chart. His power animal was the eagle and he would talk about it non stop on the phone and in person. When we had a date at the zoo, he wanted me to meet his parents. At first I was a little shocked since things were still in the beginning stages, but let me clarify - he was referring to the eagles in the bird exhibit as AS HIS PARENTS. Umm yea I was dumbfounded too ! Our power animal as a couple was a squirrel he told me, so on dates he would name the trees. While we would walk, he would stop and start to walk around me in circles and say "I'm orbiting you, look, I'm orbiting you!" He did this multiple times. Can you imagine a tall handsome brotha telling me he's orbiting me?? He talked non stop about Japanese anime and even told me I reminded him of his favorite character (who was a male). I started to feel like I was babysitting a child instead of dating a grown beautiful man . He often played silly jokes that were sooooo annoying. After date 4 (that's right 4 dates because he was that attractive) I couldn't take it anymore. I flinched at the thought of him touching me, it gave me the willies. I had to throw in the towel someway, somehow!

While planning our fifth date he said he wanted to  further explain my moon chart to me. Via text I told him there would be no more dates. He said he didn't understand and was confused. I just said "I cannot continue on this path romantically". I didn't know how else to put it. I soooo wanted to like him because he was so FINE. He legit had a Steve Urkel voice, and once we even went to McDonalds on a lunch date. I know commercials make splitting a 20-piece look nice but I'm a grown ass woman. Between the 20 piece and him orbiting me  I had to let this fine BROTHA GO!